Connection Beyond the "Logic Loop."
Most couples come to see me because they are exhausted from having the same argument on repeat. You try to use logic to "fix" each other, but the conversation quickly turns into a clash of internal "survival modes."
Whether you are stuck in a cycle of constant friction, a pattern of quiet distance, or a loop where one person feels like they are doing all the emotional heavy lifting, the problem isn't your "personality"—it's the internal scripts that have taken over your relationship.
The Hybrid Approach: Gottman + IFS In this practice, we don’t just address the relationship; we address the "parts" of you that show up within it. By combining the world-renowned research of the Gottman Method with the depth of Internal Family Systems (IFS), we move from a "Protector Clash" to a "Self-to-Self" connection.
The Process
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​​Mapping the "Dance": We identify your specific cycle—whether it's pursuit and withdrawal, mutual defensiveness, or a shared emotional "flatline." We use Gottman principles to spot the "Connection Killers" before they do lasting damage.
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Understanding the "Versions of You": In this practice, we don’t just look at the relationship; we look at the different "versions" of you that show up within it. We address the parts of you that get defensive, the parts that shut down, and the parts that want to fix everything. We work to help these protective modes step back so the real, compassionate "You" can lead the connection.
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The Session Synthesis: Because the most important work happens between our meetings, you will receive a Post-Session Synthesis. This is a tailored guide summarizing our key breakthroughs and the practical "tricks" you can use to facilitate your own repairs at home.
The Format: 75–90 minute intensive sessions via Zoom. This is a space for wit and candor, where we move beyond "who is right" and toward "how we reconnect."
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